I’m currently reading May Contain Nuts by John O’Farrell and found a paragraph which I thought was relevant to my speech and overall acceptance discussion.
Make Fear Your Friend by Barney Travers MGSc
Have you met your fears yet? No???? That’s strange, you’ve been living with them for most of your life!!! Isn’t it kinda rude to keep ignoring them like that? Maybe you should have gotten to know your fears a little better; find out who they are? “Hello, Fear-of-Failure, my name’s Barney, how do you do?” “Hello, Fear-of-Embarrassment, how come you keep stopping me from doing stuff?” Guess what? I nearly didn’t write this book because I was kinda frightened it might come across as annoying phoney-baloney, but I MADE THAT FEAR MY FRIEND and now look: you’re actually reading it!!!!
Sometimes fear of stuttering is actually worse than the actual stutter itself. Fear can cause you to change your words, or even actions. A bit of fear is a good thing; still good to get butterflies before a speech. It keeps me on my toes and better prepared. It’s when fear stops you from doing what you want to do, saying what you want to say; that’s when it becomes a problem.
Many people have fears, I think that’s what makes us human. This passage reminds us that we can either choose to let fear run our lives, or we can approach fear, understand it, learn to cope and overcome, and live life to the fullest.