Identity and acceptance before achievement. I recently heard these words and thought about how powerful they can be, not only in life but also related to stuttering.
Let’s start with identity. Do you identify yourself as someone who has a stutter? Or do you hide it and try to identify as a fluent person? I’ve been on both sides of this question so there are no wrong answers here. It’s more about self reflecting and understanding where are you today, and perhaps where you want to go tomorrow.
Acceptance. I’ve spoken about acceptance a few times already on this blog. Acceptance in my mind equals this phrase, “it is what it is.” Acceptance doesn’t have to mean defeat. It also doesn’t have to mean that you have to love your stutter either. It’s here, I have it, now let’s deal with it.
Achievement. Does achievement mean fluency 100% of the time? Does achievement mean working in a job you never thought you could? Once you have set on the path to work on yourself and your speech, you want to feel like you’ve achieved something during that process. Achievement could mean different things to different people. It’s all about how you want to define it. Don’t let others define it for you.