Tag: acceptance

Haircuts

~ Vikesh

Something about a haircut makes me feel refreshed and happy. Growing up, I never opted for a hairstyle that was not just traditional and (no offence) boring. As I began to accept myself (stuttering and the rest of me) I started going beyond the norm for haircuts. My hair has had a good life, been long, short and yes even had highlights. Getting a fade with a line is just something I’m enjoying at the moment and while some may see it as a bold or crazy haircut, I just see it as another cut. I don’t need to worry about what people will think about it because I like it and that’s all that really matters, isn’t it? We go through life worrying about other people’s opinions, but yours is the one that matters the most.

Article: 4 REFLECTIONS ON THE 2018 NSA CONFERENCE IN CHICAGO

~ Vikesh

Interesting insights into the power of self help organisations and the feelings of someone who stutters.

Four key points:

The psychological toll is very real

Being silent does not mean we do not have a voice

Stuttering makes us very compassionate, thoughtful, and reflective people

Acceptance does not mean we should not fight every day to improve

https://stutteringtreatment.org/reflections-on-the-2018-nsa-conference-in-chicago

Don't give it any attention

~ Vikesh

attention

I was speaking with a friend recently and he asked about how my speech performed at a recent meeting.  Without thinking about my response, I blurted out

I don’t know if I stuttered or not, I wasn’t paying attention

The more attention, or maybe even importance, I have given my stuttering in the past, the more unhappy I was with my speaking situations.  Now that I don’t even give it any attention, my focus has shifted to just wanting to say what I want to say, when I want to say it, regardless of the percentage of fluent words uttered.

ACCEPTANCE – what does it mean to you?

~ Vikesh

Acceptance

I will be asking people to share their views and experiences on what acceptance means to them.

Stuttering behaviour exists and for as long as I can remember each day I willed it away and hoped it would disappear – it didn’t and it won’t. So did I give up? It’s not about giving up it’s about being honest – what does it matter if I stutter, really? It has no meaning or impact on my life unless I give it the power. To me, acceptance means I have a tendency to stutter, it’ll happen, it can mean everything or nothing. It can impact a lot or not at all. The choice is mine, I choose to let it go and live my best life.  – Rob Woolley